“But we all, with open face beholding as in a glass the glory of the Lord, are changed into the same image from glory to glory, even as by the Spirit of the Lord.”—2Corinthians 3:18 KJV
A friend shared with me an enlightening moment in her life. For years, she didn’t get along with her mother, and this failing relationship had been a blueprint for how she had built many of her other relationships. She was determined to not be like her mother, which had driven most of her thoughts and moods for many years. One day, her therapist gave her a challenge; she was to visit with her mother and ask her what it had been like for her as a child, growing up. She was not to speak; she was only to listen.
What her mother revealed was shocking. As my friend listened to her mom, she realized that her mother’s experience growing up was almost identical to her own. She too said her goal was to not be like her mother. However, she had become that person; she just couldn’t see it.
As my friend returned to her therapist and shared what she learned, her therapist helped her to realize that if she didn’t take her focus off of what she hated, in the years to come, her children would describe her as she described her own mother, and as her mother described her grandmother.
By beholding, we become changed. May you have the courage to reject anger and an unforgiving spirit and instead focus on the things you love, leaving a different legacy for your children than the one you inherited.